Much sadness and hurt in this world derives from the belief that we are not loved. I say “belief” because the facts are often uncertain and our beliefs usually overrule the evidence, facts, and truth. As little children we became afraid of things, for example, a monster under our bed. This was supported by nothing more than a suggestion, darkness, or scary stories. As adolescents we may feel or be isolated by our peers and extrapolate this into rejection, self loathing, or much worse. Being unwelcomed or even put down by the cool kids is not rejection. For anyone to reject you they must first know you well. If your parent abandoned you, that would be rejection.
As we leave the comedic farce of high school, we enter the real world where all manner of events, opportunities, challenges, mishaps, and relationships take place through decisions, plans, happenstance, fate, consequence and providence. We will most likely carry many fears, assumptions, conclusions, and beliefs with us from our earlier years. We will also bring our skills, learning, talents, resources, giftings, strength and capability, which amounts to our potential. We are all different with respect to these characteristics and past experiences, but our conclusions and beliefs will have a major bearing on how we feel and respond.
If you feel sad and unloved it is because you believe you are unloved. The facts and evidence may suggest otherwise, but your true beliefs will be evident by your emotions or feelings. As a child, I believed I was claustrophobic because we played “pick up and smear” and piled on the one who was tackled; its hard to breathe at the bottom of a large pile of boys. But years later, I went with friends to explore a cave and eventually crawled through the most narrow crevices without any fear whatsoever. I was not, in fact, claustrophobic, but I had believed it for years. On occasion and with great courage, you can proceed in spite of your feelings and beliefs. Just as you can get out of bed and go to work even though you feel sad, unloved, unappreciated, etc. I spent a lifetime in a career that was despised by the general public and I did not feel good about that, but I knew my work was important, necessary, and honorable, contrary to public opinion, so I ignored the misinformed public perception.
Sometimes I feel sad because I belief I am unloved. I have no real hard evidence to support this belief, but the sadness I feel tells me that I believe it is true. Yes, there are subtle things upon which my belief is based, but when I analyse it objectively the facts seem to support that I am loved. However, rational analysis of assembled evidence, even the most conclusive facts, can always be ignored. For example, consider Creator God who has given men overwhelming proof of His existence, yet many people believe in evolution. (Rom.1:20). It is true that God made everything from nothing, and real science and mathematics are contrary to evolution theory. (Heb. 11:3). Moreover, the evidence of Yeshua Messiah recorded in the biblical record, the prophecy, the eyewitness testimony, the miraculous longevity of the Jewish people and the Bible itself are incontrovertible evidence of God’s providence and truth. Still, multitudes of people reject it. Why? Because their belief in other gods, including the god of self, overrules the truth and they remain blinded. (2 Cor. 4:4). Those who do believe in Yeshua, Messiah, do so because God has opened their eyes and hearts to the truth and given them faith to believe the He exists and rewards those who earnestly seek Him. (Heb. 11:6).
Therefore, to those who struggle with feelings of being unloved, join with me in calling on the one source of all love, God Almighty, the God who is love, who gave His one and only son that who ever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16). God has said that His love was poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit. (Rom. 5:5). Moreover, nothing in all creation can separate us from God’s love in Messiah Yeshua. (Rom. 8:39). Merciful Lord Yeshua, please give us eyes to see your love, ears to hear your love, tongues to taste your love, noses to take in the aroma of your love, and hands to feel your loving embrace. (Matt. 13:15; Ps. 34:8; 2 Cor. 2: 14-16; 1 John 1:1). Forgive our unbelief and restore a right Spirit within us. We are yours, we praise your holy name. To your name be all honor and glory and praise in the mighty name of Yeshua Messiah.