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This generation of parents are different from their parents and their parent’s parents, so they have their own blind spots to be aware of and try to clear before turning too sharply into a collision. Parenting is a divine charge and cannot be ignored without severe consequences. (Ps. 127:3) As this responsibility is given from above gifts and tools are made available to carryout the job. No one is perfect, including your children and perfect child rearing does not guarantee your children will not make some very poor decisions, but it will give them a home base to which they can return. (Luke 15:11-24)

While you’re reading all the internet advice from today’s experts on parenting, issues can slap you in the face like a cold wet rag. Consider taking a look at principles that have endured through centuries found in the Bible. (Eph. 6:4) Discipline is the hardest thing to do as a parent, but essential. Children will not like discipline, but they will understand it without explanation. (Heb. 12:7) Kids do things they know are wrong, sometimes just to test parents. When they are caught they expect correction and if it is delayed or lacking, they will be faced with a dilemma. They will question authority and could reach very wrong or damaging conclusions if this dilemma is ignored. When you correct/discipline your child it is a loving act, to do otherwise is harmful in the long run. (Prov. 3:12; Heb. 12:6) We don’t respect our supervisors who are arbitrary or fickle in the workplace, neither do children at home. Act decisively and promptly when children are defiantly disobedient or intentionally disrespectful, it is not necessary to be hash, just consistent so they can learn. 

It is good that a child understands why they are being disciplined, but be careful not to settle for understanding only, as it will lead to negotiation. Never negotiate with terrorists, kidnappers, or small children, it will only open a door to mischief or manipulation. You would not accept being manipulated by your children,  neither should you manipulate your children. You are their authority and protector, therefore, they should be taught to obey promptly without question or debate. There is a time for certain questions, but only for understanding, rather than for them to evaluate. Children cannot understand many things that involve them and they must learn to trust your authority, blindly, if called for – they are not just small adults. If you accept your duty as a parent and take on the unpleasant responsibility of discipline you will be happier and so will your children. (Heb. 12:11)